Let it go. Are you holding the grudge or is it holding you?
DO you ever stop by?
To the countless, precious, small moments that happen everyday,
Do you see the rays of sun when it rises, or the moonlight when it falls on the sea,
Do you notice the waves gushing to the shore,
Did you hear that bird sing a song in the morning that went chirping away,
Do you ever stop by, to listen to the story that the 2-year old had to say,
When did you sit down to finish that meal you bought; you got it for everyone, but asked for a takeaway,
Do you get to listen to your heart some time, or keep following blindly whatever will your mind say,
When was the last time you called your friend, or said to your mom/dad, how are you doing? hey!
It’s time to relax, unwind, sit back and hold your thoughts as time will pass you like you pass it anyway,
It’s important to cherish the moments you have, the people around you and the love that you’ve got,
As it is there now, you know this ain’t forever all going to stay.
Truth, Peace and Inner Satisfaction are some of the most undermined virtues. The joy of being satisfied and knowing you did the right thing under the circumstances you were in is something to cherish for times to come. Everyone of us gets into such situations where we have to make choices, that’s a part and parcel of life. It’s not important you make the correct choices always, because you won’t. Nobody always makes correct choices. What is important though is to be sure that you made the right choice given the situation you were in and the knowledge/resources you had at your disposal.
Peter Drucker wrote about effective management of oneself to succeed in the knowledge economy – here, knowledge workers need to not only know how to successfully follow a pattern like the brick-and-motor economy workers know well, but also these people should be self-aware: knowing when to change course, when to pursue something, what to focus on and how best to complete the objectives. Increasingly, people are beginning to realize this and this is separating them from the crowded thinking of the rest.
In order to achieve in this economy, idea driven, impact focused, collaborative effort is needed.
Tourism capital is a big untapped market in Pakistan. This country is blessed with the most scenic valleys, mountain peaks, lakes, rivers, and amazing hill stations. The country has huge arable land as well as large deserts, cities and towns, historical places, heritage sites, rural and urban settings; to sum up, a lot to offer to tourists, both foreign and local – there are amazingly beautiful areas in all the different parts of the country. What has been missing is the perceived sense of security whereby tourists can feel easy while traveling around. Much smaller countries in the neighborhood have managed to raise that critical mass of travelers that has in turn helped them grow much faster, but Pakistan has lagged here. It’s something that is right there needing a focused effort to grow, and the most important supporter in this regard needs to be the government and law enforcement agencies who need to work hand in hand to build a safer country and then media would eventually jump in to help with changing the perception of this amazing country. Countries such as China, India, Nepal, and Sri Lanka are all close by and becoming examples of how effective country branding is bringing in a host of investments, tourist traffic, development ideas and growth across the masses.
It is high time Pakistan gets back to work and quietly creates an exemplary country that revives its image. The efforts in this regard are bound to pay back as a sense of security would automatically lead to a more productive, effective, healthier, happier and more satisfied local population, and it would also bring in tourist spend to all the different areas in the country assuring broad based growth and development. That growth will also bring to the forefront motivated individuals, who would then become role models for others to follow, again something positive in the roots of every civilized, progress-oriented economy.
Here are the 5 steps that the government should quickly take to start with this process:
Once the right number of local population becomes very comfortable with the system and facilities, there are going to be foreign tourists too based on the effective word-of-mouth marketing. There could be different prices for Pakistani Citizens (validated through NADRA National Identity Card) and for Non-Resident Citizens/Foreign Tourists. Moreover, there could be discounts for tax paying citizens for using any of the facilities.
Such steps would not only help kick-start the economy, but also ensure that people are provided safe environment, and entertainment to remain healthy.
It is important to keep realizing that we are not going to always be around here, and like everyone else, there’ll be an end. Knowing that your time in this world is limited can help you create the most impact only when you consciously decide to take steps to improve things in your life.
Don’t allow negative people spread their negativity into your life.
Don’t bother about what others think or say because that will mostly distract you.
Do follow your passion, and don’t be bothered if most other people don’t do things the way you do – if you do what everyone else does, you’ll get what everyone else gets and you’ll end up where everyone else ends up. Funny how most people want to do things like everyone else, but expect to get what others don’t have.
When you’re considering taking a decision, think about if you were going to die in a week’s time, would you do it the same way?
I read through this quote from Seth Godin, and loved it:
You are not your resume, you are your work.
This is a succinct way of saying keep your head high and focus on your work, and the resume should take care of itself.
Years ago, man used to live in caves. He learned to use the tools, create fire, hunt in groups, cook and preserve the hunt. Each of the these skills created us an added advantage over the other species. On each step, we were able to grow a little further only because there were enough risks taken. In order to be more secure, we learned to take risks and over time prepare ourselves to take calculated risks to create “wins.”
When a child is born, (s)he is completely unaware of risks, and tries to pursue every opportunity to find something new, to see something new or do something new – it’s not uncommon for a child to try catching fire with his hands because (s)he thinks it’s attractive. Once the same child feels the heat of the stove fire, (s)he quickly understands it’s not something I should go for.
Risk taking is an attitude. Some people are risk-takers and some are risk-averse, but most have to accept it to varying extents. When people don’t for sustained periods, they end up staying in a perceived safety area, labelled “comfort zone” and as they say, comfort zone is a great place, but nothing grows there. In life, it’s necessary to leave that zone at least a few times to be sure to be able to grow.
An issue with risk taking is that “calculated risk taking” is not so easy to define – it’s a subjective area and the right amount of calculated risk is different from person to person. Also, it can change for the same person depending on the circumstances. That being the case, almost no one can exactly guide you on what amount of risk you ought to take, and one must understand that most of the guidance will also come from a filtered view these people hold.
Another issue with it is that when you do start taking up risks, by the very characteristic of risk, you stand a chance to lose out, or fail and if that happens, people even remotely related to you would start sharing their opinions on how the idea was lousy to begin with or how they knew this was not going to work (no, that won’t change or improve anything but people have this intrinsic need to justify why things happened the way those did and also reaffirm to others they were right). Also interestingly, these psychological reaffirmations on others’ failures are common across geography and cultures. As difficult as it is, try to ignore them.
In the end you always have two choices: to do something you want to, and end up with a possibility of failure; or not do that something and definitely end up with regret for the rest of your life. I assert the latter is more painful. And suggest you go ahead with what you find right, and a little uncomfortable.
When you talk to people about innovative ideas, many of them listen carefully and end up with a note of caution “that’s not easy.”
I contest that it is not a very useful response for two reasons: one, almost anything worth doing is not easy and two, if a person has made up their mind on getting something done, then they would appreciate the “how’s” of the task, rather than reminding themselves that the task at hand is “not easy.” So, the next time someone comes to you with something innovative that you like to listen to, don’t say “that’s not easy” but rather point out one “how” to help them solve at least one puzzle in the myriad they might have.
If you can’t do that but you feel it’s a good cause/idea/effort/plan/prototype/invention/innovation, at least say “that’s worth a try.” If you think it’s lame and not going to work, tell them so. Simple.
This blog post is written as a satire, not focused on any particular individual(s), or group. All characters used in the comments are fictitious, and bear no resemblance to a person in real life. Having said that, you might find these experiences commonplace in Karachi. The purpose of the post is not to poke fun, but to have some instead.
1. Most people would never come on time, and be proud of it. They would flaunt their attitude as they did something that others should learn from:
“Dada, aaj tera bhai bus aadha ghanta late aya hai, teri mohabbat hai.. warna tou tujhe pata hee hai apna tou”
2. There will always be instances where they need to be on time, for example, to get through the government office work. Most people would feel it’s fair they pay someone speed money to get their work done faster than the fools who prefer to wait doing the right thing.
“Abay panch sau rupay nikal aur dekh filo ke paheeye kaise lagtay hain”
3. If by a stroke of chance, one of these people end up coming on time, they’ll regret it so much they’ll keep on repeating ad nauseum to almost everyone. They’ll make sure most people know he/she was on time that day/evening.
“Saleem bhai, aaj tou theek nau bajay pohanch gaye hum, dekh lein sir”
4. When you come on time, these people will be like:
“Kya baat hai Mushtaq, time pe haan bilkul.. wah.”
What they really mean, “kabhi late bhi ho jaya karo over efficient insaan” or “Isko kya masla hai… ajeeb hai – aise thori koi bilkul time per.. ”
5. When in queues, some people will act over smart, and try to come before you even if you don’t know them, but for them your only merit is that you are far closer to the counter (ticket counter, payment counter, bill counter, token counter, fee counter, any counter). These incoming individuals would have an innocent smile on their face, and most will try to pretend they were already there but nobody noticed.
“Arey bhai, hum tou aik ghantay se yaheen kharay huay hain.. ” and when things get out of control, they’ll say: “yaar aap aa jao hamaray aagay, shor mat karo” as if they are giving a favor instead.
6. At most petrol stations, motorcycles would not form a line, but gather around like bees around a beehive, hoping the filling person would put fuel in their motorcycle first.
7. When you go into a supermarket or a crowded place, you realize someone needs to tell many of the ‘burka-clad’ women, that by covering their entire body, they still can’t cover the bad body odor – they too need to take a shower after all – seriously.
8. At traffic signals, almost always you would suddenly find someone trying to clean your windscreen. Mostly, their own mops are dirtier, and they would care to ask only after messing your already clean windscreen a little.
9. At some of the traffic signals, you would find someone trying to sell you flowers, or cleaning cloth. He will only start negotiating when/if you say you don’t want it. Don’t be surprised if he goes from 3 for Rs. 100 to 6 for the same price in less than 10 seconds.
10. Most people are habitually addicted to some form of tobacco, and would not care to even bother about where they are or who is standing around before they proudly light up a cigarette or more commonly, put the red ‘gutka’ or ‘pan’ in their mouth.
11. Once these people fill their mouths, they’ll all start talking in a typical funny way, trying to balance their hedonic pleasure from chewing the pan and communicating that it’s just 3.30pm right now, even when a stranger asks them.
Stranger: “Bhai time kya hua hai”
Pan guy: “Sharray teen huay hhain”
12. You would find a photocopier on every road, but a pan shop/cabin on every street.
13. The number of pan cabins are directly proportional to the number of gutters in the street. Typically, there are much more pan shops in thin, crowded streets.
14. You realize there is no point asking the sugar cane juice vendor if the juice is fresh:
You: Bhai, tazaa hai? (pointing to the already filled juice glass)
Sugar cane vendor: “Arrey abhi nikala hai. 2 minute huay hain.” This answer would almost always be the same even if it’s been 15 minutes. After that, he’d mix some more fresh juice with the same, and hold the same response for another 15 minutes. Rinse and repeat.
15. Most people will not mind spending Rs. 800 on a “fit waali” chicken karahi, but will think twice about spending the same money on a “fit waali kitaab”.
16. In most weddings, the hosts and the invitees both know the event will start only around 10.30pm, but they will still write 8.30pm or 9pm -the logic as people would explain goes like:
“Kamran bhai, saaray aanth likhain gay tabhi tou saaray das pohanchay gay hahahaha” – Sulaiman bhai, this was really not so funny.
17. Almost every ten and twenty rupee note has been circulated through someone who makes, buys or eats pan but doesn’t use a tissue.
18. A lot of motorcyclists presume their coolness is indicated by the ‘shor wala chota silencer’.
19. You know a fuel station has CNG when there is a huge, huge queue of vehicles coming out of there.
20. ‘CNG ki line mein kisi bhi time mobile snatching ho jati hai’
21. ‘Mukka Chowrangi’ is not so much of a violent neighborhood; and there’s no boxing practice area out there either
22. “Golimar ke pull se A.O. Clinic ke baad wala pull safe zone nahee, Gari bhaga, dua karta jaa.”
23. Karachi might be the biggest city in Pakistan, but even today there’s just one “bridge” that divides it. ‘Pull ke is paar’ ya ‘us paar’ –
24. There are still many kind souls living around here.
25. Everyday brings a lot of hope and ambition for many in this city.
26. Airport taxis have a button which they’ll push some time during the journey when you’re busy with something else which will increase the number of kilometers on the trip by 2-3 km. This will happen even if you find the person is very religious, and looks honest. Only two ways to get around this are to tell them in advance you know of this trick and keep monitoring, or just pay for that damn extra travel every time you book one from Airport, even when you are paying a tip.
27. “Aaj bhi Baakra hotel mashoor hai apni 24/7 service ke liye”
28. “Super Biryani bohat aala hoti hai”
29. “Polce ki dooty hai qnoon ke dayeray mein awaam ki madad karna, wohi kartay rehtay hain. Din raat, lagataar, andha dhoond”
30. When you call someone who’s about to reach at your place, the person would say:
“Sajid, bas 10 minute mein pohanch raha hoon, raastay mein hoon” even when he’s still at home, and will not leave for another 15 minutes.
31. When Sajid gets a call from Patel, Sajid goes like:
“Allawala Chowrangi dekhi hai.
Wahan se straight aaja.
Do galian chor. Aur Insaf shoes se right maar.
Teen building-ain chor.
Left pe ik chai ka hotel hai.
Wahan pohanch ke missed call kar dena, mein lene aa jaoon ga.”
32. Many of the fun places in the city become “Families Only” during weekends. You can even find a big supermarket having that sign outside the door. Funnily, two girls become a family, guys can’t be family. Default. rules.
33. Most men are either of two types: those who only go to Cineplex, Atrium, Neuplex and those who only go to Nishat, Capri and Prince. Those who go both places are the normal people, the moderate crowd, in minority though.
33. Cricket fever is always on. Almost everyone would have an opinion on this.
34. Transport business – Khan bhai. Fruits and Vegetables business – Khan bhai. Clothes business – Memon bhai. Rice business – Hindu bhai. Hardware business – Bohri bhai. Paper business – Punjabi bhai. Collection business – Bhai.
35. Everybody respects “Quaid-e-Azam”, almost everybody.
36. A full bus means all the seats are occupied. All space between the seats is also full. The doorsteps are also full. And, the top of the bus is also full. Most people would still try to fit in. “Bhai sahab, thora sa ander hona”
37. You can have a meal at a place from anywhere between Rs. 40 to Rs. 4,000 within 5 kilometers distance from each other.
38. Trains are rarely on time. They boast, when they are.
39. Social gatherings often get past midnight. In some of these, you might get frowns for leaving as early as 2am.
40. “Jab koi TT dikhaye tou cellphone de dene ka jani” – carry another extra cell phone just to give it away when asked to.
41. “Har baat pe dharna hai, har point pe containers.”
42. “Dumthall” at WaterPump stop still has the best halwa puri in town.
43. “Do Darya” is just one “samandar” and you can’t even dip your feet there.
44. Funland rides have their own charm, but beware someone would always be watching you from a distance. Just look around. Watch out girls.
45. “Meerath” kababs are the best. “Bar-B-Q tonight” also comes close though.
46. “Paper Market mein jhando ki variety aatank hoti hai”
47. Cycle market still rents bikes to kids in half hour increments.
48. “Delhi Rabri House” has amazing “rabri”, although not always so hygienic.
49. “Hanifia” has the best hunter beef in town. Their mustard sauce was one of the original, local mustard sauces in the city.
50. Despite all odds, this city is such a melting pot of cultures, languages, customs and faiths, it lives in the hearts of all Karachites, wherever they go.